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Values: What Matters Most

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Our Values

If I was to ask you what your values are, would you be
able to name them?
This is actually a really important question when you
consider the fact that our happiness is directly linked to our
values.
Whether we realize it or not, values influence our
behaviors, choices and emotions.
They influence our habits, our lifestyle and, in a broader
sense, our way of being and interacting in the world.
So it’s supremely important that we get to know what our
values are and be able to name them.
The best place to start in figuring out your values is to identify what matters most to you.
By answering a few questions we can make the concept of our values more clear. Attached are four questions to help you start considering your unique values. By simply looking at what you regard as valuable, both in monetary and non-monetary ways, you can determine what your core values are.

 

Values share the common thread of expressing
what matters most to a person, what that person
feels is essential to their happiness.
Conversely, it also means that if we are not happy
then it’s a safe bet that we are not living in alignment with
what matters most.

I encourage you to take a couple of minutes to complete the attached exercise.

Worksheet # 1 – “The Concept of Value”

Give a response to each of the following three questions.

  1.  What would you buy if you suddenly had an extra $500.00 and had to spend it within the next 24 hours?
2. If your home was on fire and you could save three things, what objects would you save?  All people and pets are safe and sound.
3.   If you could change one thing about the world, what would you change?
4. If you had all the time in the world, and you could spend more time on one thing, what would it be?

Your responses:

Finding God’s Path for Your Life

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Finding God’s Path for Your Life

Part 2

I am so much like the GPS commercial when the GPS says “turn right” and I drive into a building. But, you know, it isn’t just in seeking a specific physical location that we can get lost or “drive into” something that stops us cold. In the course of life, have you ever felt that you were “off course” not sure which direction to go? Or, has something happened, beyond your control, that sets your head spinning so you don’t know the right direction?

After my frustrating experience with the GPS, I thought, how could I have avoided that frustration? Where did I go wrong? I followed all the directions , but I arrived at the wrong place!

Do you look around you and see that you thought you were following directions, but somehow ended up in the wrong place? A place of loneliness, emptiness or just feeling that you are not accomplishing what you thought you would in life?

I remember, after many years in sales, working for a huge pharmaceutical company, looking up one day from the constant stress and the tunnel vision jobs can put us in and thinking, “ I want to do something bigger than this, I want to reach beyond this tunnel vision and see the world, the people around me and their needs. Do you ever feel like you are in a tunnel and you are being swept along with the details of jobs and family and other influences?

For me the wake up call came when I began to listen to myself and look inside instead of out at the tasks I needed to complete. I heard a message about creating our legacy and what others will remember about us when we are gone. This started me thinking about my life and how I was spending my time and what I would be remembered for. Sales, hard work, travel- surely, this couldn’t be all there was to me? I started praying that I would be used for something bigger than myself, to find my purpose in this life beyond the day-to-day requirements.

At this point, I was defined by my job, by what I did to earn a living. Then, in August 2010, I lost my job. This was a real turning point in my life. All of a sudden, I looked in the mirror and asked,” who is this person?” What do I do now?” I didn’t know who I was outside of what I did. I lost my mom that same year and all of these events forced me to look at who I really am. I began to search for, what I call, My sacred path, the path that is unique to me and what purpose was I created to fill.

We all have a “Sacred Path”, a unique purpose that only we can fulfill. I can tell you that when you are on your path, you will feel complete, content and you will know in your heart of hearts that you are doing what you are meat to do. This doesn’t always mean just what you do to make a living, but it is about that place in your life that is uniquely you – where you find joy and peace.   You can have that place outside of your job and it will make you a happier and more productive employee because you know who you are and what your purpose is.

Stay tuned for Part 3

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Finding God’s Path for your Life

Part 1

Have you ever been lost? I mean literally lost, without a map or GPS? If you have, you know what a terrible feeling it is, not knowing which way to turn to get where you want to go.

I remember how excited I was when I got my first GPS device. I had traveled for years with the Map Quest print outs and always  struggled to drive and read the directions at the same time.  You know what I mean, having a hard time finding where I needed to be. The GPS device was the greatest invention ever for me!

On a trip to Raleigh, NC, I was to meet the sales rep I was working with at the exact address she had given me. So, I programmed in the GPS and away I went. When I arrived at the destination, as proclaimed by the lady on the GPS, I was at an abandoned warehouse building in the middle of nowhere. But the road names matched the address the rep had given me! However, there was no office and no sales rep.

About that time the rep called me– thank goodness for cell phones- and asked where I was, it was almost time for our appointment. “I am at the exact address you gave me, but I don’t see you” I said. She could hear the GPS lady saying “you have arrived at your destination on the right” but I was nowhere in sight! She started telling me what to look for – all the while the GPS was continuing to yell at me. I am sure you can imagine my frustration! The rep finally said in frustration,”just turn that thing off and listen to me – I will tell you how to get here!”WOW, just turn that noise off and I will tell you where to find me! I was only a few blocks away and we made the appointment on time, but with such aggravation that I was not much help in the presentation.

Have you ever experience such frustration? I am so much like the GPS commercial when the GPS says “turn right” and I drive into a building. But, you know, it isn’t just in seeking a specific physical location that we can get lost or “drive into something that stops us cold.” In the course of life, have you ever felt that you were “off course” not sure which direction to go? Or, has something happened, beyond your control, that sets your head spinning so you don’t know the right direction?

After my frustrating experience with the GPS, I thought, how could I have avoided that frustration? What did I do wrong? I followed the directions given by the GPS, but I arrived at the wrong place!

Maybe you are feeling that way too.  Do you look around you and see that you thought you were following directions, but somehow ended up in the wrong place? A place of loneliness, emptiness or just feeling that you are not accomplishing what you thought you would in life?

Well, you are not alone.  Many people are in the same place and seeking guidance and direction. In next weeks Blog, we will discuss how to “turn off all the background noise” and start finding the right direction for you.

Stay tuned!

 

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